When it comes to Spencer, I am fiercely protective over him. When you love someone with all of your being, your only desire is to see them happy. If you know Spencer well, you know he always sees the good in others. It’s one of the many qualities that make him so endearing. He genuinely wants the best for those around him, particularly his family.
Spencer and I could not be more different when it comes to our grieving process. I prefer talking about it until we are blue in the face, whereas Spencer would rather ignore it in hopes it will all go away. Fun fact: GRIEF NEVER GOES AWAY. You simply learn how to carry your grief over time.
After the accident, I would have never imagined the year that was in front of us. I would have never imagined I would have to constantly watch my husband suffer. To watch your person hurt so deeply and there’s little you can do, is exasperating. I knew Spencer could not continue masking his grief and “sparing” everyone around him the deep sadness he constantly carries. One of the many hard lessons we both have learned is to never internalize your grief. Sharing your grief is NEVER a burden; it is a gift. To share and to be heard is healing. Leading our conversations with this kind of intent and compassion has deepened our understanding for one another. Through all of our ups and downs, I am thankful for the lessons learned. Most of all, I am eternally grateful to walk side by side in this journey supporting the love of my life ♥️